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congrats man u must be over the moon :( my wife is 7 weeks pregnant with our first so we are nearly out of the danger zone,i swore that id never have kids when i was a teenager now im 27 and i cant wait ,with money its harder when u have to do it urselfs(no family help)but i still think its worth it like tangles said money doesnt matter its the love that counts :D

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thats it sled

as you know, me going onto DSP of $200 per fortnight is a massive sacrifice over 2000 per fortnight

but all we need is food, everything else will take care of itself

craig - best of luck mate. teh fun part is the trying to get preggy. just counts out one or two holes LOL

congrats to rob also,

ahh the danger zone, scary stuff. :D

hahaha craig, slip it in, hehehe, ooops* sorry hun *

:( makes 'em come every time

anyways Im being rude,

congrats to thread starter

meaning to life - everything changes once you have children. a family bond, the love, is something wonderful that shouldnt be misseed.

everyone has the right to experience love

I hope you all find what you are looking for, truely

I had been trying for over 5 years, leading up to the end of my 9 year marriage.

Found out the ex-wife (wife at the time of course) had lied about wanting children and misled me.

Pretended she couldn't have kids because of indemetriosis (diagnosed 3 years prior) and played on that. Indemetriosis was her way out of having kids. She knew I really wanted kids.

I suspected something was up when friends with worst cases were successful in conceiving. My ex only had a minor case. Her egg count was good and above normal and my sperm count was above normal also. Other tests proved positive and the doctors couldn't explain why the ex was not conceiving.

I forced her into a corner when the option of IVF came up ... she had to come clean and bluntly told me it was a silly idea to want kids.

That of course ended the marriage there and then ... I had never been to damn angry and devastated at the same time!

It was a 9 year lie ... and I'd given up ever having kids thanks to that bitch.

To put more salt in the wound, she had an 'interest' elsewhere ...

There are people out there who just cannot have kids. People out there who shouldn't be having kids. And people out there who genuinely deserve kids.

Its a sad world when the Govt decides to $ reward teens to have babies ... and makes it financially impossible for working couples to start families. The ferals are breeding, while deserving couples are getting screwed over. :ninja:

Now I'm with Tracy and we are trying for kids as we speak ... maybe one day I'll be posting up on SAU soon that I'm going to be a dad.

But ... I've learnt not to get my hopes up ... it almost destroyed me last time. I've had more than my teaspoon of cement now, and I'm just happy with what I've got.

:P

Congrats.

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People out there who shouldn't be having kids.

Agree there ruby! My almost 15 year old ex foster brother has a 11 month old :ninja:

Sucks about you wanting kids and her not wanting, but lying about it. I guess she shouldve just said it in the first place.

Like luke and I, I decided long before I met him I didnt want any, and I told him that, but turned out, he doesnt want any either, so no issue! Im 26, im not a kid, so my decision is pretty final. Its not like im 18 and dont know what i want in life, im 26 and i have plans, they just dont and wont ever include kids.

Good luke to you and tracy :ninja: Hope we hear some good news very soon! :P

that sux for you rueben :ninja: .. but at least its not too late for you and your other half now... good luck with getting pregnant..(i think most blokes, like me, just like the practice :P ).. def agree about the "baby bonus".. it should be means tested and not given to "feral kids" who have kids to get it for their next drug top up. it is saying to ppl that its ok to be pregnant at 15, 16, 17 years old. its just not right. i never thought i would want kids as a teenager, but my wife and i have talked about it and TOGETHER made the dissision after being together for 8 yrs or so. now i cant wait!!.... all those sleepless nights stinky nappys, crying, temper tantrums..........actually.......... what the f**k am i doing????.............lol

mick, it really is the best thing in life

the simplest and most natural thing too

Flick. dont take me wrong. 100% kudos to you for making YOUR choice with your partner. on my side, I hope in 5yrs time you reconsider, but on the flip side I hope the 2 of you as a couple have such a rich and rewarding life together

rueb's, keep at it mate. look up, and the stork will come calling, I hope for you and Trace anyways.

if ya need help let me know, Im a baby making machine !!!!!!! :P 1

just got back from the shops..( gotta cook for 2.5 ppl these days lol ) seen one of those types that should NOT have kids, the young takka was crying about sumfin and his mum was yellin' at him to stop.. seen em again on way out. she grabbed the kid an full cracked him on the face...... now im not one to interfer with ppl's parenting but, i ended up telling her to leave him alone.. i cant stand and watch ppl intentionaly hurt kids like that... it's a sad way to bring kids up :P .... they should be loved and taught to be good but to do that you cant teach them like a type writter.. (punch in the info) you need to set a good example. i know i will

rueb's, keep at it mate. look up, and the stork will come calling, I hope for you and Trace anyways.

if ya need help let me know, Im a baby making machine !!!!!!! :P 1

The way Tracy likes it, you'll need to be a bit more able bodied ... flexible ... stronger :)

:P

Thanks for the words guys. :P

It made me stonger I guess, and I don't put up with shit anymore. I'm well known for being direct and to the point and not taking crap ... blame the ex for that :P I had to emotionally shutdown and push away/write off the woman I believed I was going to raise a family and grow old with. There was no pleading with her. No "why". I simple told her immediately "I want you out. I want you out of my life now". I learnt not to care and to have no feelings for the ex or the friends I thought I could trust. I lost the life I had built, lost the house, lost trust with alot of people. Kids mean that much to me ... I just walked away from my previous life/lifestyle and never looked back. I think that annoyed her so much, that I had the ability to do that.

My ex never understood it ... her argument was that she'd be left with a baby she didn't want, while I was out riding my bikes and cruising with mates. She never understood that my bikes and other toys were what was filling the void of not having a kid. After 11 years, she never understood me. Shame. Give me a kid, I'll do what it takes to be a good dad and husband. Simple. Silly, silly woman. Assumption is the mother of all f*ckups, and lying is the daddy of all f*ckups. My ex f*cked up big time.

I've got a second chance now with Tracy after an 11 year deficit with the ex. She is totally wanting another 2 or 3 babies (hence the extension going onto our house) and loves me unconditionally. I've had this awesome opportunity land in my lap and I ain't going to f*ck it up. If we genuinely try and never end up conceiving, I can live with that.

:laugh:

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fuuk ruby whats with all the essay's? :P

cbf reading all that :P

You might be a bit wiser if you did read more :P

BTW ... that ain't an essay. I've done 5000 word essays for uni. They ain't pretty! ... and pretty boring :laugh:

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lol,

your not as bad as people say ruby, your a good lad

:P

lol craig, I cant believe your passing onto to Ruebs what I said to you about him

omg

lol hahahah jks

good read rueben. and yeah, 5000 word essays are nothing. give me a subject and I'll give you a thesis*

* poor atm, so she'd have to be published... what subject - "night terrors and the black fog" ?

:laugh:

I've got a second chance now with Tracy after an 11 year deficit with the ex. She is totally wanting another 2 or 3 babies (hence the extension going onto our house) and loves me unconditionally. I've had this awesome opportunity land in my lap and I ain't going to f*ck it up. If we genuinely try and never end up conceiving, I can live with that.

:P

going on everything ive read, all i can say is your a better man than me, if i had that happen to me i'd be out for blood.

fortunatly fate steered you in to some thing that, by the sounds of it, that is soooo much better for all concerned. you have a shot at being a dad, and have a commited relationship with a missus that understands you, all systems go hey :laugh: much better way to bring children in to the world, ( seeing as you both want it)

cheers Mick

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