I dont blame you, I'm sure most ppl are in the same boat, but I have only ever seen one cop from 100m away when I'm in my car. Just lucky I guess. I'm still young, so defects dont worry me just yet.
My mate had 5% limo tint and our work ute has 20% tint and you don't have trouble looking through the windows at night. You get used to it. If your having too much trouble, just wind down a window.
But as I have said so many times, its your car your decicion. I'll have to take my car over the pits WAY before you ever will!