I didnt up the idle, the car did it by itself, the sounds of it at the moment it sounds like one of the cocils has totally died, or isnt flowing enough amps on idle to get a good spark hence the missfire.
Swapped my afm with another one and same problem, swapped ignitor pack same problem.
Thinking it could possibly be the O2 sensor which ill check this weekend, along with cat.... ill try taking my coils out one by one and swapping them to see which one is faulty, along with the wiring.... Coolant temp sensors are ok, one on dash works fine, and my ECUTALK© from one of the members on here works off the diagnostic port and reads coolant temp so both the sensors are fine..
So got it down to
Coils
a sensor of some sort
i doubt its the injectors but it could possibly be
im still a bit unsure about afm, all looks ok but that will be a last resort again if everything else is fuxord
Atleast the surging has stopped, that was a really scary thing to happen in peak hour traffic, kinda a "when is the car guna not run at all" moment
thanks for your help guys, ill let ya know ppl