Cheers ill have a look tonight or tomorrow, worst comes to worst i have another gtr box i can pull off the bell housing and check the differences!
Edit, i did take the bell housing off and it binds even with the bell housing off. When the shifter is in neutral it feels as if it in gead and when you turn the input shaft the output turns, and when you select a gear it binds up.
The stainless washer you are talking about is it a thrust washer (bearing)?