That's not exactly true.
If he is trying to run RB25DET injectors on a stock RB20 ecu, then yes it will run like crap.
If he is using all RB20 items (injectors, sensors etc), then it will run fine on the stock RB20DET ecu. But with a bigger turbo on there it's going to hit R&R pretty damn quickly and likely max the airflow meter pretty quickly too.
Get a remap before you blow your engine up.
I ran mine on a stock ECU for a few months but I've only got a little 25 turbo on there.
Oh and R32 RB25DE head doesn't have VVT. If your head does have VVT, and you're using side feed RB25DET injectors, then I think you need to clarify a few things...