update to this, i finally got around to looking at this on the weekend, just loosened the coil packs off and did them up again and made sure the plugs for the loom were all in properly.
the car has never run better, revs a lot nicer and more responsive no more backfiring which was horrendous after i bought the car and got better after i changed the plugs but now gone completely so something must have not been plugged in properly
that miss still happens sometimes though, so i'm going to changed my plugs to a 0.8mm plug as i changed the plugs to 1.1mm BCP6E, and i've only had this issue since i changed plugs
other than that it must be a coilpack, but it just doesn't feel like a coil pack because it doesn't happen on boost like your typical f**ked coilpack, it usually happens sometimes when i first start the car in the morning or when i'm just cruising at 60km/h and goes away generally if i give it some revs