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Terry please tell me that you copy-and-pasted that! I got lost after hearing St John had a wart...

Awesome stories, guys - thanks for having the guts to share them. It's really interesting to hear your experiences.

hehe

Guess!

...a specialist gets to know these things

...just like how I'd get f%*#ed up if I came across a 5 sided head on a bolt

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I had an EX who was most likely certified bi-polar.

she could go from falling on the ground laughing her head off, to yelling, to crying all with in the space of about.... 6 to 8 seconds. literally.

One of my favorite episodes was sitting there watching her mum go mental at her dad one day and listening to her tell me how unstable her mum can be. THis all happened about 12 minutes after one of her unstable melt downs. Gold!

If you can hang in there you've always got some good stories for the pub with the boys :P

Good luck with what ever you end up doing :)

I'm a little late on this discussion but here goes anyway

Has she ever tried clean living for a while... eg no drugs, alcohol, tobacco, caffeine or any stimulants as well as doing regular exercise and staying away from processed food (anything that comes in a packet, including food brought from a take away joint)?

I know it sounds like a dumb question but lifestyle has a huge impact on mental health, more than we would like to admit... also does she get enough sleep and have a hobby or something she is passionate about?

These points have all been touched on by others but reckon they are really important... I'm no angel and I don't claim to do all of the above but I'm not in any denial about the impacts of certain elements of a modern lifestyle... maybe the anger is just a symptom and all the counseling is doing is treating the symptom, when what you should be doing is looking at her lifestyle as a whole

Good luck:)

just talk to her about it

discuss why it affects you, why you want it changed and what you would like to see different

if it doesnt help then try again and express you are loosing interest due to this issue

if she still doesnt change then its time to move on

but why put up with it for 6 years and then bring it up as an issue?

you should have been doing this 2 years ago

Just wanted to say that I am truely overwhelmed and humbled with the outpouring of help from all you guys. You don't know what it means to me. That's why I love this club!

It's very hard for me to even talk about these things with friends let alone random somewhat strangers, but thanks to all.

Been another rollacoaster few weeks. Fricking cried my eyes out for the first time in over 10 years a few weeks back. Sooked like a baby. Couldn't believe it. Well it was either that or hurt her. I'm a happy guy, always thinking positive, loving life and that and I think my body just broke down from just the thoughts that were going through my head. Like how did I get here. Not good.

To answer some questions.

Yeah she's hot, she used to model partime.

No your not getting pics Slim.

Yes I love her madly!

No it's not Liz.

No alcohol, we both were never big drinkers, but it made it worse x10. I'm talking cops, punchups, getting kicked out of clubs, nope we avoid any boozey nights now.

No she's not cheating.

Terry your posts are interesting and hitting the mark, I need to look into them more. It's like she's missing the tolerance factor. I'll PM you if you don't mind.

No I don't want to get rid of her. I want it to be better. Of course I would tell myself to to get the heck out of there too, so thanks for the advice. But I actually do see a future and it is very bright, if we can just stop wasting time and get there. Yes she does have her good(FANTASTIC) qualities as well of course that's why I am with her. She has so many talents, she still surprises me sometimes and her genuine smile makes me melt.

MBS206, NZM031, FIGJAM, Matboy, thanks so much for sharing your stories, best of luck to each.

R34KID, spot on with everything you said, that's sounds exactly like what I'm going through and exactly how I feel. I'm always trying to turn 10 to 90 and 90 to 10, I've said that so many times in my head. I too copped the auto violence! Started kicking the shit out the car, and I almost got arrested for restraining her.

I'm a little late on this discussion but here goes anyway

Has she ever tried clean living for a while... eg no drugs, alcohol, tobacco, caffeine or any stimulants as well as doing regular exercise and staying away from processed food (anything that comes in a packet, including food brought from a take away joint)?

I know it sounds like a dumb question but lifestyle has a huge impact on mental health, more than we would like to admit... also does she get enough sleep and have a hobby or something she is passionate about?

These points have all been touched on by others but reckon they are really important... I'm no angel and I don't claim to do all of the above but I'm not in any denial about the impacts of certain elements of a modern lifestyle... maybe the anger is just a symptom and all the counseling is doing is treating the symptom, when what you should be doing is looking at her lifestyle as a whole

Good luck:)

Thanks Nick, yeah we live a fairly clean life. No smoking, drugs and we cook our own food most nights. We are quite active with sports and rec too. Yes she does need more hobbies on her own now that I think about it, so thanks for that.

Lastly to all those people that mentioned the pill. That was like a lightbulb going off! I remember years ago when we were first going out and we tried to solve the severe mood swings the doctors advised to change the type of pill. We did try a few different ones, but frustration set in after definite hormonal changes kicked in and she got fed up and went back to the original. Wow forgot about that. I think it's time to bring that subject up again.

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Been another rollacoaster few weeks. Fricking cried my eyes out for the first time in over 10 years a few weeks back. Sooked like a baby. Couldn't believe it. Well it was either that or hurt her. I'm a happy guy, always thinking positive, loving life and that and I think my body just broke down from just the thoughts that were going through my head. Like how did I get here. Not good.

To answer some questions.

Yeah she's hot, she used to model partime.

No your not getting pics Slim.

Yes I love her madly!

No it's not Liz.

No alcohol, we both were never big drinkers, but it made it worse x10. I'm talking cops, punchups, getting kicked out of clubs, nope we avoid any boozey nights now.

No she's not cheating.

Terry your posts are interesting and hitting the mark, I need to look into them more. It's like she's missing the tolerance factor. I'll PM you if you don't mind.

No I don't want to get rid of her. I want it to be better. Of course I would tell myself to to get the heck out of there too, so thanks for the advice. But I actually do see a future and it is very bright, if we can just stop wasting time and get there. Yes she does have her good(FANTASTIC) qualities as well of course that's why I am with her. She has so many talents, she still surprises me sometimes and her genuine smile makes me melt.

MBS206, NZM031, FIGJAM, Matboy, thanks so much for sharing your stories, best of luck to each.

R34KID, spot on with everything you said, that's sounds exactly like what I'm going through and exactly how I feel. I'm always trying to turn 10 to 90 and 90 to 10, I've said that so many times in my head. I too copped the auto violence! Started kicking the shit out the car, and I almost got arrested for restraining her.

Yes, I certainly empathise with you Hoags!

I know you won't quit until the last straw has been pulled!

The 'Pill' issue and the 'Alcohol Sensitivity' are decent MARKERS that tell you you're on the right track

a PM is certainly invited!

Regards,

Terry

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