The VQ30det is crap as there is no variable cams, you will really notice the soggy response compared to the 2.5 or the 3.5.
Best would be a built VQ35 which would set you back a bit but the parts are available at least.
Or if you want a stock motor to drop in, leave the VQ25det, its the strongest of the bunch if you plan to mod.
With all these options you will have the same ecu issues. There is plenty of work happening on the ecu side and hopefully one day there will be an aftermarket plugin option but until then whats wrong with the Emanage Ultimate? I will try to do a wiring chart when I rip mine out for those of you that cant make it down to Melbourne if you like, that way you only need to find a competant tuner to tweak the map.