Nice reference to Dr Strangelove
As above, check your engine number, pull the passenger kick panel off and check the model/serial/etc on the ECU (havent seen a stock one for a while so I cant remember what to look for to identify it - I'm sure someone on here knows).
Get a stock BOV. Aftermarket BOV is unnecessary for your application and will more than likely cause engine stalls.
I wouldn't worry too much about the POD/FMIC... it isn't legal, you're right, but in a lot of cases it's the least of the defect problems. What you can do to lessen the problem is buy a black aftermarket air filter housing/box. Plenty of places sell, and you can even get em in carbon fibre... mmmmm.
R32 GTR actuator is a relatively common mod and info can be found on SAU.