Forget about the N1 oil pump. Its just not worth doing unless you're rebuilding the motor and making the other mods that are required to complement it. On its own it will be more dangerous than the standard pump.
Get new actuators if you get -9s. -7s come with new actuators and all up will be about $400 cheaper than -9s, but wont make the same max power as the -9s.
IIRC the Vipec PCB fits in the factory ECU case, so is stealthy that way and you could keep the AFMs and wiring - you dont HAVE to remove them. Otherwise you could run Nistune, but "BNCR34 Skyline requires BNR32 RB26DETT ECU, O2 sensors and CAS wiring modifications".